So I promised to introduce the rest of your family starting with your mom. Never one to break my promises, at least not intentionally, here goes. But, I should preface this by saying that I might sound like a emotional ass during this post. And I don't care. I mean every word.
Your mom is the most awesome woman I know. She really is. I knew from the very first second I met her that she would be the girl I would marry. She had this air around her, just a vibe. She came off as incredibly cool and confidant without being high maintenance. I met her while working at a video game store in Glassboro, New Jersey. She was working at the video store we leached off of. Little did I know that my decision to up and quit a job I had worked for six years would lead me to her. I often wonder how I would have found her if I didn't leave that job. As it was though, it worked out perfectly. Your mom had moved to NJ to get away from a life she didn't want in California. She had broken up with a guy and I had recently broken up with a long time girlfriend. Sounds like a perfect start right? Unfortunately, no. And the reason I say that is because I love her so much that I am mad about the time we lost. But no matter. I knew she was the one, and she knew it too. The timing wasn't right then so we played this silly game of call you and talk for hours and then not speak again for months. It went on like this for years. We even got so far as to sort of make plans to go see a movie. She didn't call though and I was crushed. So crushed that when I was out Christmas shopping a few months later and saw her working at a store, and I knew it was her no matter how hard I tired to convince myself it wasn't, I simply could not go talk to her. I am not a guy who takes rejection well. It hasn't happened very often in my life and I couldn't take a perceived rejection from her again. I just would not have been able to handle that. So I chickened out. Luckily though she called. And that was it. There were some rough spots that we had to work through but we did. And I really lucked out. I did and said some things that probably should have ended our relationship before it ever really got started. Again, I am really lucky your mom is as great as she is.
And she truly is special. She is one of the most caring girls I know. Nothing she does is ever good enough for people if you ask her. She bakes a cake that everyone loves to pieces and she thinks it's crap. She gives of herself and feels bad for not giving more. And the great thing is that she does it for no other reason than because it is her nature to do. She wants to make people feel good. She wants them to be happy. She never shows up empty handed. Ask your Uncle Nick one day about his Team Zisou beanie. Mom got it for him. Because she wanted to bring gifts for my friends. Because she wanted them to be happy. And the beautiful thing was that she hadn't even met them.
At the time of this writing she is 26. I wanted to make sure I included that. I want you girls to know that your parents are people. I didn't really realize this until I was around 23 or 24. I hope you realize this a little earlier.
ANYWAY, back to how awesome she is. Other than being caring, she is funny. Really very funny. And quick. She has a quick mind that turns out some gems. I consider myself to be pretty quick. I have been told that I am funny. But your mom is funny without potty humor. She can make jokes that aren't filthy. I am not so good at that and I envy her. She has taught me to expand my humor into something more palatable. You will see. She will make you laugh. She makes everyone laugh. I don't even think she realizes it sometimes.
Your mom is also smart. VERY smart. She is smarter than I am or will ever be. I imagine this is what gets her into trouble with other adults. You see, your mom has no patience for stupidity. It makes her angry. Like biblical angry. And it is not her fault. The problem is that while people are talking or doing, she is already three steps ahead. She can make people feel dumb without trying. And while that sounds mean it really isn't. She dominates conversations because she has already thought of and answered the questions people are going to ask. She brings out insecurities in people that they didn't know they had. And I love her for it. It makes me have to work harder to keep up with her. I don't always present myself as the smartest guy in the room but I usually am pretty near the top of the lsit. And because of your mom I will stay up there. And you will too. I am very much looking forward to the conversations you will have. I know I will not have stupid kids because your mom won't tolerate it.
I am going to stop here. I will continue tomorrow. I realized about halfway through this writing that I should have made a web or an outline or something to guide my thoughts. I might even go back and edit this post.
More to come.
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